introduction: 0:03

Mark, you're listening to fascinating women with Mark Laurie. And now, Mark Laurie,

Mark Laurie: 0:08

good morning. Everyone. So glad that you're here. I'm Mark Laurie from inner spirit photography, but today I am chatting with Christa robidieu. Normally, I have women in front of my camera, and they're photographically telling me their stories, but today we're going to have Krista delve into her character and see what makes her tick. Welcome Krista. Thank you for coming.

Krista Rabipoux: 0:31

Thank you, Mark, thanks for inviting me.

Mark Laurie: 0:35

It's going to be a delight. So we get right into it. What are you curious about right now?

Krista Rabipoux: 0:42

in the world, or in my life? There's so much noise out there, right. There is indeed a lot of noise. I think right now I would say, if I were to delve into what am I most curious about in my life right now, it's how to help individuals find that inner peace again. I just and fun and laughter. I think we've delved a little bit into the serious, too much seriousness, and, yeah, and it's not good. I mean, it's not an accident. You know, mental health is on the rise. The problems with it, and it's, it's not accidental that that's happening. So I think it I'm very curious how to trying to shift this momentum from fear and seriousness and doom and gloom to that, I think started back in COVID and just really hasn't left our society. And how do we? How do we, how do we bring back that light?

Mark Laurie: 1:45

That's a good thing to be curious about. Any smaller things you get curious about,

Krista Rabipoux: 1:50

I'm a pretty big thinker. So

Mark Laurie: 1:53

what does big thinking look like when someone says they're a big thinker? What does that mean? Like, what do you

Krista Rabipoux: 1:57

Yeah, you know, I'm Hey, it's interesting, because you're a photographer. So I picture things in my brain about, how can things be different and in the future, like I'm generally looking 510, years down the road, I'm not looking at today. It's very it's actually very difficult for me to look at today. It's not one of my strengths. So when I when I'm curious and big picture. It's, it's about, you know, what, what does the future and hold? And how do we adapt the

Mark Laurie: 2:27

for like yourself personally or for the world in future general, kind of thing, like, how can you both?

Krista Rabipoux: 2:34

Yeah, I'm always thinking about myself personally. How, how can I continue to grow? I'm a lifelong learner. I'm always in some type of course certification program. I'm always trying to grow and learn and get new knowledge and new information and and not always a keen to what I do, but it's, it's just, it allows me a part to be, you know, successful,

Mark Laurie: 3:02

well, let's say that's one of the recipes for staying young. Is that education? When did you start that habit? Like, how far back does the curiosity and the urge to take courses and expand your mind go

Krista Rabipoux: 3:14

Yeah, I would say, if I were to listen to my parents, they probably would have said I was always a curious child, exploring and getting into things, maybe not always good things, but I always have to sit and learn and see how things went. And thankfully, I was given that opportunity growing up as well. I was I was given the opportunity to explore and and learn, which probably fueled my my fire to continue that. You know, I'm I'm well into my career, but I still feel like there's so much more to learn.

Mark Laurie: 3:53

It never it never ends. And being a curious child sometimes think is so critical for for your learning stage is if you get that sense of curiosity young to pick your things, and there's no bridles on you, you just get to kind of go where you want to go and and,

Krista Rabipoux: 4:09

well, you don't see the world as having limitations, right? Because I think, I mean, there's pros and cons to all different types of parenting. But even parenting my children, they were, they were permitted to make mistakes and explore. And, you know, I think now I have a very close relationship with them as adults, and because they know they can talk to me about anything, and, gosh, them, and I'm not going to worry and I'm not going to get mad, and I'm just going to hear them out and coach them and mentor them a little bit to help guide them, but let them also path. Just choose their paths. Yeah, employees as well. That's it's really one of my biggest things that I always strive for. And I always call it the the pure authenticity, because it's a buzzword right now about authenticity, but it's not really happening in the. Corporate world. They want people to operate a certain way and fit in a certain box and do a certain thing and and it's needed, but it's very much an industrial area thing. Era thinking versus, yeah, I've turned the new generation, new generations, not generation, the new time. I guess it's not even a generational thing. The identity era. Everybody just wants to have self purpose, right, and identify with something. And how do you tap into that, for that curiosity and authenticity, so that they can feel successful? Because successful is a feeling. It's not an external thing.

Mark Laurie: 5:34

How would you define successful?

Krista Rabipoux: 5:37

Just like that, successful is defined as, how does it make you feel? Have you do you feel like, Oh, this is something I feel really good about. And if it is, then you're successful. And it could be even like frying an egg. It doesn't like it doesn't have to be big. It can be any it can have many, many, many successes, right? And, and it's just I did really good at that, and I felt good about that. And to me, that's what success is. It's how it's a feeling

Mark Laurie: 6:07

On the flip side. How do you define failure?

Krista Rabipoux: 6:11

Failure? So I heard this, and I don't remember where I heard it, but I term it and I use it now. Failure is first attempt in learning, and it is just, and I've used that ever since that, you know, it's just my first attempt to learning something and and we need to, quote, unquote, fail in order to learn and and get stronger and be resilient and and adaptable. Because I think resilience and adaptability are two of the biggest strengths we can have as humans in order to to to grow,

Mark Laurie: 6:46

Especially now with the years ago, change didn't happen. Hap happened quickly. It was a slow kind of grind, and so you'd sort of see somebody else's next life. But now it can change in a dime, and it's it can happen really, really quickly. The when you want one with success, what a failure thing where we the really bad thing happens, it's out of your control. Goes into it. How to overcome that? How do you climb, getting the next stage of learning?

Krista Rabipoux: 7:19

You know, I think it's important to have some some confidence around who, who believe in you and who you look up to. I think it, I think both of those need to exist in order for someone to help you. Because if it's someone who you're like, Yeah, I don't really know if I want to be like you, that's probably not the person that you want to go to for for advice, and, and, and it's not even advice. I being a coach myself. I'm really into helping people find their own answers, because, you know, mark your path is not going to be the same as my path. And so you can tell me how you did it, but I don't know if that's going to work for me, right? And so when I've had really substantial failures, I think the biggest thing is I take, I allow myself the space and the time to to observe and understand what what it was that, you know, I think in my career, I've had two major burnouts, and now in realization, looking back with experience and practice. I was my own flaw in my burnouts. I can blame the companies, yeah, but I also didn't say no, and I didn't have my personal boundaries. And I think the only person, and we hear all these things about, you know, delete delete your your email from your phone, and delete this from that, so it's not accessible. And I liken those types of things to dieting, restricting yourself from something that maybe you want to do is not a sustaining behavior. You have to figure out what your sustaining behavior is. And so when I've had major failures, I go back and go, Okay, well, what? What got me to that point and what do I need to adapt personally in order to not have that sustaining behavior, to fail in that again? And I think that that's the biggest thing, because just purely, and you're right, things move fast in this world that we're in today. And I would say that if we just adapt something that we've read in a book, or we saw on Tik Tok or whatever, that is a quick reaction that isn't necessarily going to be a sustaining model for the future. And so take it, allow your things don't need certain things don't need to move fast, and you can allow yourself time. And I'm a very fast thinker. I'm a very fast decision maker, so it's hard for me, but when you have a failure, I think it's, it's good to sit back and self reflect and and absorb as to what, what role did I play in this to ensure that I don't do it again? Because really, we only have control over ourselves. Yeah.

Mark Laurie: 10:00

So that kind of goes back to being accountable. Yeah, yourself, so many people are kind of offload. It's just so much you just say, well, it's that person kind of done that there is a movement called Slow Mo movement, and our whole purpose is to actually find ways to slow down nice. I recall years ago I was bunch of students that were going to our work job up in northern BC, and we were driving along. We passed, it passed the town, and 20 miles later, the fan belt broke, or something broke in the car. We had to limp our way back and through a stuff we hadn't even noticed. Driving 60 miles an hour, there's a whole pasture full of cows that are fascinating. There's just coming back slow it, you know, 10 miles now it's a lot more. It's

Krista Rabipoux: 10:44

when I'm walking through the streets of Calgary. So one of my chosen methods to slow down is walk slow right, and on purpose and and people are just like, like, it's like, I'm going 60 on QE too, on the highway, right? But at my moment that I've said, this is the moment I'm going to allow myself to be slow and just observe and smile and take in what's around me. And it's funny, you say that because that was actually one of my life learnings, of, I'm just going to walk walk slower. I'm truly just going to walk slower. And that's a really simple thing to do. Like, you've got to go someplace that sort of like, just slow down. It's gonna take me one minute more. Like, yeah, yeah,

Mark Laurie: 11:28

You're both a coach and you're an entrepreneur, because that's essentially what has to happen when you're a coach. How far back did you start discover that? Like you could did? You had a talent for training people and you had the risk,part of your personality that could take you into doing things. How far back I go, like you had a

Krista Rabipoux: 11:50

all the way back to, I would say, my adulthood. I was always once. I was in university, you know, I was always the person leading the study groups. I was always helping people, my peers, learn and teaching them, coaching them and mentoring them. My whole family is, well, not my whole family, but a lot of my family is filled with psychologists and social workers and counselors. I guess it's a family trait they're in that veered off to the path of becoming an accountant by accident and and did that for a number of years, but about 10 years ago, I really, I kind of really saw this disconnect in professional services where we weren't really listening and asking the right questions, because we're really trained to solve problems Right lawyers, doctors were just problem. We solve a problem, problem. Solve a problem, but not necessarily getting to the root of the problem and understanding. What does the person actually need? Going back to my thing about the sustainability and understanding and success, what is it they actually need? Because I think a lot in this comes to the fasting. Oh, I saw this on Google, or my friend did this, or chat you told me this, or yada yada yada about it was maybe even more than 10 years ago now. Geez, holy No. About 10 years ago I got certified as a coach because and it wasn't and, yeah, back then I probably had the thought, Do I want to switch full time into coaching and leave the accounting world? But because I saw this disconnect, I was like, wow, this is such a beautiful marriage being a professional and a coach and kind of morphing that through the family business enterprise or family enterprise and all of that that it deep and rooted me, like you said, it was probably I really started to recognize it when I was in university, because, like I said, I led all the study groups. I that was just who I was. I was always helping, yeah,

Mark Laurie: 13:53

Going back when you were even younger, was that trait in childhood, like in, you know, grade six or something, that you were doing those kind of things or starting to see the thing of it?

Krista Rabipoux: 14:03

I, I'm not sure, probably, probably, I mean, I don't remember many things. I had a head injury when I was 13, so I've lost a lot of my memory as a child. But I, yeah, I would say in high school, I was probably trying to always help people and guide them and give them advice, and like it was, it would be natural, yeah,

Mark Laurie: 14:26

How do you just pop in the memory thing? Because that's such a core part of being human, is that you can build on what you remembered. How did you cope through having a memory loss?

Krista Rabipoux: 14:39

I think I coped better than my parents and my grandparents, because Don't you remember when? And I'm like, No, I don't. I can look at pictures with you. But I think at the end of the day, just because the memories are gone, the roots are there, right foundation of. Childhood there, right? And so the memories are moments that helped to form who I am as a human today. So I I just got to say, you know, at the end of the day, it must have been something that was, there must have been some type of formidable situation. I know my grandmother was a huge inspiration to me, very, very, very strong, kind, giving robust woman who lived to 90 to 90 years old and right to the day before she passed like she just was. She lived on her own. She, you know, it was. She was just a very strong, independent woman. And I would say that that foundation of watching that and being on a farm, I think farm life also teaches you a lot of targeting skills as a human growing up harvesting and all of that and the animals. So I would say that that found, I know that foundation is there to make me who I am today. So so the moments, I don't feel a loss, because I guess it'd be like someone who was blind. They don't know what that's right me so that it's my kind of I don't know what it would be like to go recollect and understand, because I it's just not there. Yeah,

Mark Laurie: 16:22

I remember my my dad was losing his memory, and he was quite concerned about, of course, the doctor said, don't, don't worry about you'll be fine. Oh, bother you at all. Lose memory, yeah, but you'll forget that you forgot. You forget that you forgot traveling, or they're gonna go through hell, because you won't know what you've forgotten until it comes up. So, yeah,

Krista Rabipoux: 16:39

it's harder for my parents, but I might don't remember certain things. Remember we did this. I'm like, we had a good time. You told me We did good

Mark Laurie: 16:51

So some else beside your grandther. Inspire you?

Krista Rabipoux: 16:55

Um, you know, I think it's, I would say most of the women in my my life inspire me and my family, all in their different ways. Even my daughters, they've raised very strong, independent women, and I don't really so it's interesting because so I've met, you know, tons of famous people, and at the end of the day, we're all just humans. And so I really love attributes of different people that I'm like, Oh, I like that, Oh, I like that, Oh, I like that. And it's kind of like the shiny starts my ADHD, I'm like, Oh, I like that. And so I wouldn't say that there is aside from my, you know, my parents, my grandmother, my children, I don't think there's people outside that. I'm like, Oh yeah, I really look up to that person, because there's parts of everybody. Everybody has pros and cons, right? So, so I would say there's attributes, but not individuals.

Mark Laurie: 18:01

What attributes Have you have you actually got, I got to incorporate that into my life, that I want to become that attribute. How you have some of those so you've really took a shine, that you really took a shine to, and really did make it part of your being,

Krista Rabipoux: 18:15

yeah? Well, a recent one would be actually the slowing down, yeah. And so one of my partners is much more methodical than me, and in a good way, I'm very fast and quick decision maker. I don't need much information. I go on my gut like I kind of, but one of my partners has really, kind of encouraged me and and I encourage him to go the other way as well cleaning up, right? So it's, it's been a really good balance of allowing those moments of settling and listening and as a coach when I'm in a coaching so it's different, because when I'm facilitating and in a coaching contract with with somebody or a family, it's very different, because I I'm there to facilitate and listen, but when I'm running my own business, I can be hyper speed. And so it's trying to bring those attributes from here over to here. And he really helps me do that.

Mark Laurie: 19:14

That's cool, but the hype there must be a you must have a small confidence that you've gained. I find a lot of people have gut instincts. They trust their gut quite a bit, but you must have had a lot of success with your gut instincts. I find some people let me trust their gut doesn't work out then they're more hesitant to go with that gut feeling. How'd you acquire that sense of confidence in your gut?

Krista Rabipoux: 19:36

Yeah, I've always trusted my gut always. I think we as humans allow our brain to override our gut, which is a mistake because it's self limiting and and it doesn't allow us to truly achieve what what we what we need to achieve, and if, and if most of more of us kind of just trusted that gut instinct. I, I think it was a little bit different of a of a world that we're in, because we're, I think, and this is my own personal opinion, we're a little bit too much swayed by the medias, both mainstream and social, and not truly just tapping in. We're not, we're not erasing the noise and just tapping into what, what's being said in here and listening to that because, because there is so much noise right now that it's hard, it's really, it's actually really hard to do that, right?

Mark Laurie: 20:36

It is, I believe, that we've conditioned to not trust our instincts, that the all the social media things and the news are actually actively trying to make it so we misjudge ourselves and we incline to listen to be led more easily. That's whether that's intentional or just a full that's easy for them to get more money, because that's their whole intent.

Krista Rabipoux: 21:01

Well, it's, it's, it's, um, we really, I would spread spending the time to, you know, tap into your own stories and your own gut instinct as to what, what is, what truly matters, right? And, and I don't want to kind of go all the way back, because I enjoy some of the things. I mean, I'm a techie. I love techno, but, but I think it's just remembering the root of humans and kindness and tapping into that gut to make decisions on on those fronts,

Mark Laurie: 21:40

If a person goes, I want to start doing that. I'm hesitant about my gut. What kind of advice would you give them to start tuning in or start listening to it? Because there's hard to separate advice that you've heard, or the whispers in New Year, might say, from social media, to what your gut really is. How would you

Krista Rabipoux: 21:58

Yeah, I think, I mean, meditation is obviously a really strong tool. It's interesting to me because I've had a lot of conversations with people about a meditation practice, and everybody's like, well, I can't shut my brain off. And I'm like, well, meditation is not actually shutting your brain off. Your brain is you don't want your brain to shut off, or you're dead.You need this thing working, learning how to control your thoughts, that you can tap into what's happening. And I think that that's to me, meditation is it doesn't even actually have to be long. Meditation could be taking five slow deep breaths, right? Just five slow deep breaths. Let me think through this. Let me truly tap in before I kind of decided. And it comes back to that slow, slow mo movement that you said, like it's just, it's really slowing down weight, okay, that's noise. Let me slow down and think about this. No, it doesn't sit right. Go this way and and it. And I would do it with you. Can do big things, small things. I actually don't think you need to start with small things. I think if you feel there's a moment that you can tap in and go, let me, let me just slow down and think about this, and kind of slow down the thinking. And that's what meditation is. It's slowing down the thinking. Something comes in that shouldn't be in there, you just kind of, you give it space, you acknowledge it, and then you allow it to pass so that you can get back into to the gut feelings and and I think it's, it's truly just it. When you slow down, it starts to happen. Walk slower. Amazing. What you can what you can do when you walk slower.

Mark Laurie: 23:38

Is there some things that you believe in that other people, don't? They disagree with you the core belief or opinion.

Krista Rabipoux: 23:47

Well, I'm a big, big, big, big, big fan of energy transfers of humans and the earth and people. Some people think it's Frou. Frou. And it's funny, I actually heard something the other day too, where everybody who doesn't believe that there's human energy transfers or transfers from the earth, do you use Wi Fi? How do you think that happens? Like through the air? There is radio signals, there's and we have those same transitions, right? And and so to me, I actually it's starting. I can see there's more people starting to believe in that, and the power of a hug and the power of a smile, and the power like just the that, that that engagement, that happens. I do know some people think I'm pretty fruit, especially being in professional services. I'm very fru fru, for for who I'm typically surrounded by, the typical type of people. But I think it's, it's um. There's more and more of the newer generations that have truly tapped into that. So it's getting the rest of the world to kind of go, oh yeah, I get it. I see that there's, there's energy in and it matters and it we need it. We need to connect. We can't all like you and I locked in a room by ourselves that that that isn't healthy for us.

Mark Laurie: 25:22

No, like, there's actually a study ever done recently on hybrid and the guy says, if you hold the embrace, I think it's like 30 seconds or 45 seconds, that's a breakthrough moment where you actually transfer energy back and forth. It's a very not intimate, but empowering thing, like it actually changes your your your head chemistry, by this, by this log, especially if it's someone you hold dear.

Krista Rabipoux: 25:48

Yeah, very cool. Very cool.

Mark Laurie: 25:53

What's the best advice you've ever received? Hmm,

Krista Rabipoux: 25:59

actually, I, I it goes back to that slow down, being a high performing individual that I am. I like to achieve a lot. And as I said, I suffered a couple burnouts in my life, and I like to take on a lot. And I think that that's it's it. It can be dangerous to myself in setting those boundaries, to have space for spiritual, have space for professional, have space for educational and and physical and kind of balancing those and and ensuring that you're I mean, at the end of the day, these bodies are just borrowed, right? We're more than the body that exists. But if we want to stick around a long time, we have to take care of the body. We have to take care of the spirit, of the soul, of the mind and and so it's balancing those, and I would say slowing down, to ensure that I'm including all of those components in my well being. Is is important?

Mark Laurie: 27:10

What are the three critical beliefs that you've got that guide you? Your pillars of awareness?

Krista Rabipoux: 27:18

Yeah, I would say everyone has a purpose. Everyone's good at something like they they have a purpose. They're good at something right? Everybody truly means good. Some eat deep down inside people, there's, there's something good about them. And if there's, they're not acting good, it's what, what happened to have them come out in this way world. And then I would say the third one is that time is limited. Enjoy it like it's it truly is limited. Enjoy it we, we this life is not a forever thing in this body, in this day and time, whether there's reincarnations or whatever that's that's a different thing for now this this life is a limited life, so you have to just enjoy it.

Mark Laurie: 28:11

Just, I remember my dad was talking, he would say, yeah, there's a point in your life where you believe you have all the time in the world, and then there's a point where something changes, and you're suddenly acutely aware of the fact you that every moment is one moment less, right? And yes, so that. And it's and you can't, if you're a young person, you can't really comprehend that second half, like, yeah, it's just life is so big and so and so it's out there. It's,

Krista Rabipoux: 28:38

I was talking with my daughters, and we were, we were laughing because how different people think about different things? So I turned 50 this year, and I was like, Oh, I'm halfway through my life and and they were laughing because another person was like, Ah, my life is almost over, and they're close to the same age as me, right? And I'm like, they're like, just hear the way you think is like, yeah, deposit, I'm half like, it's not, oh my God, my life's ending soon. It's like, No, I'm halfway. This is exciting. I'm now, I'm now, I'm ready to rock and roll.

Mark Laurie: 29:10

My stride going, Yeah, it's interesting. I was, when I was I've been doing photography for 45 years, okay? And the women that we get in who are in their 50s. Back when I started, they looked old. I mean, there was a there's a stage, and the ones who are in their 50s actually closer to 70s that come in now, they still look more robust than the women in their 50s back in the day.

Krista Rabipoux: 29:33

And it's, yeah, yeah. I wonder what that is. I've noticed that too. And I mean, I'm natural. I don't have any Botox or anything. I know you can't always tell with people nowadays, with with the with the stuff that exists out there, but I would like in mind to like, I'm very much into natural medicine and acupuncture every two weeks. And she does do facial acupuncture every two weeks. And my natural path. Like I, I very rarely go see a Western medical doctor, very rarely, and I don't get sick really, either. So, I mean, yeah, must be something to my madness, but I'm just going to trust that the universe is taking care of it, and I'm going to keep doing what I do.

Mark Laurie: 30:17

Yeah, the universe job that sort of the same way. It's, it's the belief thing I hardly ever get, Jen, my wife, goes up the wall because I get sick. I have a cold. It'll last for a couple hours. I'm sort of fine. And, yeah, take it off. And I feel it's like ill, like this is, and just having a cold, don't get these things. And, yeah, this is, it's like a personal affront when something happens. It's like, body, what are you doing exactly?

Krista Rabipoux: 30:42

I when I get sick, I'm always saying it's God telling me to slow down. He's putting me in bed for a while. Because I'm not I'm not listening.

Mark Laurie: 30:51

At some point the universe is gonna say, you know, the lesson I haven't learned yet. We're gonna keep on trying, but I think we have to get a little bit louder. And so I actually had one of my friends, she was living a real harsh life, like she was a harsh person and very successor goal, or all those bad things in TV shows. And she had a few things happen. You know, car accident, got t boned, and she still kind of bounced back and finally and elevated and fell on her head, and then she laying in bed, she kind of goes, think I should take a lesson from this. And like the universe was, was each time was hitting me at the stick until I finally paid attention that she says, I then she changed her whole life. And it was a very different story. Literally, yeah,

Krista Rabipoux: 31:33

about every, I would say about every four years I get really sick, but it's like 2019 I got blood poisoning, yeah, in bed for about a month, and then last not this winter, but the winter before, I caught Dengue in Dominican, and I was in bedroom. So when I get sick, it's like, every four years, the universe gives me an external force to like, No, you are gonna take a break and take a vacation, not a vacation, but we're forcing you not to work.

Mark Laurie: 32:03

Yeah. So personality traits, things like, you know, your trait, being on time, being honest, those different types of things. Which one do you wish that you had?

Krista Rabipoux: 32:15

Ooh, personality trait I wish that I had. You know, it's funny, so the external world sees me as a very confident woman. Okay, I can portray very confident I still to this day, have so many limiting beliefs and self doubt about how good I am. And you know, you would think, after so many years of practicing and helping people and doing things, but I still get scared, and I sometimes to the point of causing myself anxiety is in making a mistake and and it's funny, because I preach to my team it's okay to make mistakes, like we're human. We're gonna make mistakes. We're not We're not built to be invaluable and but internally, I really I still suffer on that. So if I were to say there was one thing, it would be to switch that to just and I think it comes from a place because I care so much, I really care so deeply, that, that I'm scared and I cause myself anxiety and lack of confidence because I don't want to make a mistake.

Mark Laurie: 33:27

Yeah, that's a, I think that's true thing. I meant, there's a TV series song a long time ago, and gun fighters were talking with one guy for claims he's not. He wants to be just like you. He says, I'm I don't be afraid of anything like I'm a fearless Yeah? And the older gun fighter goes, yes. I mean, you talk. Somebody says, I'm scared all the time. Yeah? This. He says, Yeah, that's why I'm alive, because I am scared so I'm constantly looking out for stuff. Yeah, I think the moment that you aren't, that you don't care, like for photographers, when we we just, we don't. We all worry about making a mistake. We are worried about getting it perfect, because we really don't care anymore. Yeah, but when you when you feel apprehensive because did you miss something like that's when you're looking for things and make it better and make it grow and and being responsible authentic,

Krista Rabipoux: 34:14

yeah, yeah, that's a good point. It is true because, and it comes back to that failure, right? First attempt to learn.

Mark Laurie: 34:22

I love that phrase,

Krista Rabipoux: 34:23

you learn, you move on, you take the next step. So a lot of people I've talked to over the years have talked about their children in terms of they've learned stuff from their children. And you mentioned that once earlier in our conversation, what is the biggest thing you've learned from your daughter? So I have three daughters, three daughters, okay, which was fundraising, three daughters as and I was a single mother, so it was a woman household in World War four, three at third point, uh, during the adolescent years. And I would say that the biggest. Thing that they taught me is how to be patient, how and then my oldest child is a spectrum with Asperger's, and the biggest thing that she taught me was, does it really matter, just because society says that's the way it is, why does it matter? Right? And and really challenged me a lot when they were growing up, because they would always, I would say, do something. And they would be like, Well, why? And I'd be like, huh, yeah, why? Good question on that, because I there was, it was just a societal thing, like society to do this, and it's like, who says that we all have to conform and, and my middle daughter is a very strong, you know, forward, think thing, type of individual so she's, she really challenged me, and just keeping my forward thinking, I would say they each gave me something different. And then my, my youngest daughter is my psychologist, who who is very deep thinking and always would challenge me to be like, did I think deep enough on that, right? Did I? Did I? Did I explore all the options? And so it's been really cool, yeah, and I and they still do to this day. I mean, they're all adults, but they still do to this day, challenge me in that way. And it's quite wonderful.

Mark Laurie: 36:35

It's unsettling at times, because you've got a view of the world and you got this comfortable rope, and somebody go. And I teach in various occasions as well. And you do stuff that you just, you know, put lights in place. The guy goes, Well, why is it there? That's best place for it. How do you know that? Like, like, why is that the best place? Interesting. And you gotta pause and go, Okay, it's been a while. I mean, I will tell you really soon, because

Krista Rabipoux: 37:02

that's how I learned it.

Mark Laurie: 37:03

And then quite often you get a challenge, and you look at it, you kind of go, oh, yeah, that's, that's mind bending. And you're quite right, yeah, yeah.

Krista Rabipoux: 37:13

Depends which way do you want the shadow to be. And then what like, yeah, yeah.

Mark Laurie: 37:17

But just in anything. And then also there's, you know, breaking the rules where stuff is intentionally designed to look ugly because there's a point to it. That's right, you kind of work with the esthetics of it. So it's kind of a neat it's

Krista Rabipoux: 37:30

easy to explain why, like, Why wear yourself? I mean, all humans had to be told to wear a seat belt. So we were logically doing that as a human race, until they make it law, right? So it's, I mean, there's certain things that, yeah, as humans, we're not doing this, right?

Mark Laurie: 37:48

There's evolution of things like, but, for example, I was growing up, we didn't wear helmets on our bikes. Yeah, okay, and that's how, there you go. But yeah, often, though, like in the cars, for example, the cars didn't go as fast. There wasn't as many of them. So your chance to have an accident that was enough. That would have made a difference. But then suddenly that changed, and you have to, you have to compete for it. It is this thing. The bikes, when I was going up, you know, you could not get a chance that you getting up there heavy and hard of getting up a good speed. Of course, you did some health

Krista Rabipoux: 38:24

and now you can go uphill like you're not even riding a bike with the electronic bikes. Was a bicycle accident as a child going down a hill. Yeah, yeah.

Mark Laurie: 38:39

We don't realize how lucky and how fragile we are as as people, we there's a sense of invincablity, yeah. And when something happens and suddenly, you know, memory loss, body damage, you kind of like, I mean, how does that happen to Superman? Right?

Krista Rabipoux: 38:57

I'm not invincible anymore. Yeah,

Mark Laurie: 39:00

it kind of kind of paused. Did that make you more cautious after your accident, that you've discovered that you're hesitant for things?

Krista Rabipoux: 39:07

Probably, yeah, yeah, I would say, embedded in my subconscious, I'm a less risk taking than I probably would have been before that. I mean, I was fairly young. I was in grade eight, so it was, I was a not. It was young, younger in my year when it happened. But I would say that, yeah, I'm not. I'm not a big, well, let me say, How do I say this? I'm a risk taker when it's not physical threat to my body. Okay, that makes sense in my livelihood. But if it was like, you know, jumping out of a plane or doing something that there's a risk to my life, I don't I have too much purpose on this earth to jeopardize ending my life soon because I won't fulfill my purpose,

Mark Laurie: 39:58

long runway. What?

Krista Rabipoux: 39:59

Not around you've got exactly, I don't feel like shortening it, although I do believe our time is, like, already set, but I'm okay.

Mark Laurie: 40:10

My dad believes that. He says, you know, it's, it's gonna happen. It's like, it's, I struggle with that, because part of my belief is that we make our choices, yeah, and life's geared that way. And so I've got free agency kind of thing, right? Then somebody says, Yeah, but the day you're gonna die or whatever, that's been set that affects my free agency? I disagree with that. Yeah, she creates a bit of a two line kind of thumb. Now, with the young girls,

Krista Rabipoux: 40:36

you have free agency until the day comes,

Mark Laurie: 40:40

until suddenly, oh, look, you just thought you did, but this guy got these strings happening. It's there.

Krista Rabipoux: 40:46

You know, death is a funny thing, because I I don't fear dying. I mean, dying isn't about it's kind of like you said about your father that you don't know you forgot, right? You're dead. It's actually the people that around me are good, and I'm not going to hurt hopefully. I don't want to be a long, drawn out death. But it's the people around us who suffer, right?

Mark Laurie: 41:12

So that's exactly some funerals aren't for the dead person there for the people who can sort of allow passing. Kind of go for it. That's right. Talk about a more positive thing. One thing I'm curious about is, because you've got such young daughters, how do you see them shape the world? Because they're a different generation than than has existed before. Their drive and even the world they're moving into is substantially different than what say I grew up in, or you grew up into. How are they changing the world?

Krista Rabipoux: 41:37

Oh, boy. I mean, I think they'll all have their own stamp, in a way, my oldest, as I said, is Asperger's, so it's a little bit different of a thing, but because of her challenging of societal norms, I think she has an effect that way. My middle daughter is that my two youngest are in university still. And, you know, they, they both chose the route of the psychology, doctor, nursing, typing, family roots, yeah, deep family roots. They, they continued them. It skipped me with, well, I guess I kind of reverted back to it now that I do family businesses, but I would say, you know, if I think about my middle daughter is very much into the natural healing and food and mental healthness, and my youngest daughter is just graduating from psychology working with youth at risk. And so I would say that they both, using those strong skills, are going to continue to foster that environment. That that we believe in is, I think, as a familial group of health and wellness and mental health like this, like I said, the spiritual, the goal, the physical and the mental, the learning is, is, I think they'll just continue to promote that. And I think the more one, one peoples out there that are they're promoting it is, is good.

Mark Laurie: 43:22

Yeah, that's engrossing, great. Well, this has been delightful. I've had a great, interesting time, which I really, really enjoy. It's a lot of fun. You have any insights you'd like to share before we go?

Krista Rabipoux: 43:34

Yeah? I think, like, I guess, the few things I would say if I were to top it off would be, don't be afraid to fail. Slow down. Allow things to happen. Slow down. It's okay and take time to really process, to tap into to the gut and have fun like we just, we just, we got to have fun. Laugh. Laugh. More.

Mark Laurie: 44:04

You know, it releases so much things in your brain and an energy. Last thing I we had one of my earlier guests that was her whole thing was to keep people laughing, at least to the kids, which was a fascinating, yeah, it is just great. Well, thank you so much for your time. Today, we're today. Listeners. There's information in her bio, but what she does and some links if you want to kind of follow up with her and get a little bit deeper into what Krista does. Thank you for your time with us, and thank you, Krista. I really appreciate it.

Krista Rabipoux: 44:34

Appreciate it. Mark. Take care.

Exit speaker: 44:38

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